Jesus acted as a translator. He got His message from the Father, then translated it to those around Him. He heard a voice others were missing. And because He could hear it, He acted differently. Remember when everyone was troubled about the blind man? Jesus wasn't. Somehow He knew that this situation would reveal God's power (John 9:3). Remember when everyone was distraught about Lazarus' illness? Jesus wasn't. Rather than hurry to His friend's bedside, He said, '...This sickness will not end in death...it is for God's glory...' (John 11:4 NIV).
How could a relationship be more intimate? Jesus had unbroken communion with His Father. How did He do it? He rose in the pre-dawn hours to pray. He communed with His Father through the night while others slept. He turned from the incessant demands and expectations of others to be sure that His agenda lined up with God's agenda.
Do you suppose the Father desires the same for you? Absolutely. Paul says that you have been 'predestined to be conformed to the image of His Son' (Romans 8:29 NRS). Such a lifestyle is promised, but it's not guaranteed. It comes at a price. Are you prepared to pay that price? John writes: 'We proclaim to you what we have seen and heard, so that you also may have fellowship with us. And our fellowship is with the Father and with His Son, Jesus Christ' (1 John 1:3 NIV). Only when you have spent time in God's presence, when you have 'seen and heard', will you be able to talk about Jesus in a way that compels others to listen.
My blog is about to get interesting. I think.
The day before yesterday, on May the 2nd - i received a letter advising me that my stalker and the psycho that has left constant and abusive comments on my blog for the past 16 months is going to sue me for defamation and harassment.
I found this rather amusing as despite her best efforts - and her even getting her friends to make comments on my blog that name her - i have never named her nor have i published those comments. In the past week since the court case with her last victim ended - i have received a constant barrage of abuse and threats from her. She has pretended to be several different people - including a man from my past who threatened me and made sexual references to me, called me by the name that i used during that time, and threatened me to "tread carefully". This woman had gone to the length of befriending a prostitute that i once knew in order to get information regarding that time of my life.
Because the comments had become threatening, i installed an IP tracker on my blog. Once i did that, i was able to see that all of the comments had come from the same IP addresses. I could even tell exactly when she left home in the morning, arrived at work, left work, and then arrived back home in the evening and that she had spent 13 hours in one day on my blog.
The next day - i received this letter;
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| Notice i STILL refuse to name this woman |
This letter was written and - i assume posted - on the 30th of April. I received it at snail mail's pace on the afternoon of May the 2nd. Simon Buckingham has advised me that i have to remove something from my blog - what he wants me to remove i have no idea - by the close of business the day prior to receiving this letter (the day after he posted it) or else he is going to file proceedings against me at lunch time on the day that he has given me until the close of business to remove whatever it is that he is asking me to remove!
WHAT. THE. HECK.
Simon has also advised that his client is going to join her proceedings against me with other actions that are taking place against me at this time. I am unaware of any other actions being taken against me at this time. When i queried this with him via email he has responded saying that he is unable to comment regarding the other actions. But - he already HAS commented on them - hasn't he...(my question mark is still not working)
I responded to Simon advising him of his client's behaviour and that i have no desire to be focusing on something like this when all of my focus right now should be on my studies. I asked him exactly what it is that i have said about this woman that is defamatory or harassing that would warrant legal proceedings and for him to threaten to have my blog removed from the internet and to remove my right to free speech from me.
I have not received an answer to that question.
I was initially advised that proceedings against me have already been filed and that because i did not comply with his request prior to being aware of it - that there could be no resolution. Then i was advised that if i agreed to whatever he and his client are asking - that they will withdraw those proceedings.
When i advised Simon of his client's behaviour, the proof that i have of it, the threats that she has made towards me and that i was seriously considering contacting the police regarding her actions - which i suspect have also included creating a blog in my honour implying that i am on drugs - he failed to respond to me.
A funny thing has happened though. My blog has gone wonderfully peaceful and quiet. No nasty comments and no visits at all from the IP addresses that i had advised Simon were his client's since i sent that email.
The last i heard from Simon was this;
And that has left me wondering - who made Simon Buckingham the blog police...He thinks my blog is ok when i am writing in favour of left wing politics but other than that i should only comment on news items because that "would be ok".
Someone tell me this guy is joking.
I have forgotten to mention that this woman's other mad lawyer is also threatening me with defamation despite me never naming her on my blog as well - after doing nothing more than referring to something that happened to me in a pub one night.
Since i write about most significant things that are going on in my life every day...i will be writing about the outcome of this. This is pretty significant really and has nothing to do with my opinion of the woman that has refused to just move on with her life and leave me alone since i decided that i no longer thought it was healthy for me to have her in my life.
This is not about her.
This is about my right to write on my blog what is going on in my life and my opinions. My right to free speech, and how some nutter and her mad lawyer out there are trying to remove that from me by removing my blog from the internet and also my right to be on the internet at all.
This is not about anything that i have said about them - or about this woman seeing that i am happy and healthy and because of that she has not stopped stalking my blog for the past 18 months - making negative and abusive comments when i am happy, when i am sad, when things are going bad - but mostly when things are going good. The better things are for me - the more enraged she becomes.
This is not about that though - this is about my right to write in my blog and my right to free speech. I have nothing to lose - except those rights.
On that note - i better bloody well get moving. I am going to be late for lectures. This has already taken more focus off my studies again today.





30 comments:
Ba ha ha! Simon Asperger's Buckingham. I lol-ed when I saw that he'd qualified legally.
You won't be surprised that he too was on New Zealand Dating.
All he's trying to do is scare you with what he sent through. Any court who saw what he'd sent would lol as much as I did.
No - it does not surprise me that he was on nzdating. That is probably how they know each other.
I have been advised to make a complaining to the law society regarding this as well as the woman's other mad lawyer.
You should also advise the partners of Buckingham Law of these actions by one of their employees. Law firms hate even getting complaints made to the Law Society, as it can affect their malpractice insurance premiums. I would predict that if you do complain, then an apology to you will follow at about the speed of light.
Goodness Gracious me...
Remove all offending posts ? Which ones ?
Defamatory statements ? Against whom ? The person whose name is on that letter has not been identified, publicly vilified, named or shamed. None of the blog readers know who this person is. All we know is that she's female.
If any person, anonymous or not, continously leaves abusive comments on your blog, It can then be easy to prove to the court that these allegations are true.
This anonymous person is so unoriginal she doesn't even use a pseudonym. At least I use one and have the guts to reveal my identity.
I suspect the anonymous person is afraid you will reveal her identity, but she should've know have known that she could tracked by Internet Protocol (IP) address, just like I've always known that I can be tracked.
The thing that I find amusing is this- if I have not named her and have just described my experiences with a person then how would she even know I am talking about her - unless what I am saying is true... In which case it can't be defamation!
Right?
Seems pretty simple to me.
Marc - I am going to make a complaint.
Can't be a big Law Firm as the address on his letterhead is a private address. Wouldn't have thought a lawyer would give out his private address esp when his website lists a P O Box # as point of contact.
Keep up your good work Jackie, you go girl!
What tracker are you using that lets you pin point the IP's of commenters on a Blogger blog?
I can tell you that - and exactly how I did it- when I am back at my laptop.
I have yet to be advised of what solicitor has instructed Simon as well despite asking him this question.
Unbelievable.
Dear Psycho aka 60.234.200.224 I am not going to tell you what IP tracker i am using.
I may or may not take a screen shot of exactly what i see in that tracker in regards to your IP address and how i know it is you commenting though.
Have a nice day!
Good idea. I know they've heard about him before and his online activities that have not put him in a good light in his profession. ;-)
Buckingham Law has no partners. Simon Buckingam operates from home.
That is just crazy. If you do report it to her work, make sure you send the screen shots proving its her, otherwise she'll probably have some story to lie her way out of it.
It took 27 - full screen - screen shots for me to save her behaviour on my blog since 11:32am yesterday morning.
That is what i am dealing with here...
Holy shit!! I guess my only words of consolation are that at least you're no longer inhabiting the same world as these saddoes...they can only reach you thru' cyberspace, trying desperately for whatever reason to drag you back to darker times.
Shame they're so thick that they don't realise you are a graduate in the making, and are on a whole different emotional, intellectual, and moral level to themselves.
Suz - i only knew this woman for a couple of months. She contacted me after the whole Laws scandal because she was another blogger at the time and hated Laws.
Within a couple of months of knowing her though - i witnessed more drama than a slow night in a brothel.
All i heard about were rape complaints, dobbing her exes in to various government agencies, affairs with married men, emailing their wives.... When she attemtped suicide over a man not leaving his wife for her - then started directing her vindictive behaviour at me because when i saw her suicide note on her blog i called her parents instead of this married man - i cut my losses and ended the friendship.
Since then she has stalked me with fake facebook profiles, made several attempts to resume our friendship by trying to add me on Facebook...in November i received emails from her then partner asking me to please give her another chance. When i went back to him and said no - i was not prepared to have her in my life - and warned him that i thought she was dangerous ( he is someone that i have known for about ten years and she has since tried to destroy his life ) i received an email back from her threatening me with a court case.
She was warned in February by Paul Sharples at the New Market Police to not comment on my blog, however she has continued to harass me in an effort to get me to say or do something that would warrant legal action - which i have resisted. She has spent time hunting down people from my past in order to try to get something to use against me. Luckily - that is darn near impossible because i have already written about everything that i am ashamed of. I have a skeleton free closet and that must really rip her nightie. Her recent comments on my blog calling me by my working name from that time of my life were about all she could come up with.
Ouch. ;)
She is vindictive and obsessed with me and my blog and now she can no longer focus on the last man whose life she tried to destroy - she is focussing on me.
I welcome court action from her. She has nothing - which is why she is spending every second of her life now going through every word on my blog. She is trying to find something and she is trying to find and contact anyone else that may hate me enough to want to join her in court action. She kind of has to do that now since her lawyer has advised me that there is other court action -when there isn't which is him being unethical.
The scary thing about all of this This woman is educated, has a good job, and comes across as completely normal when you first meet her.
I have noticed though - that even Laws had the brains to not go there despite him being just about completely controlled by that things between his legs! She contacted him after i ended the friendship with her - i am assuming thinking i would care.
Yeah right.
Like i said. I am looking forward to fighting this. I think i may be the first blogger in New Zealand to be sued for this kind of thing and if she succeeds in having my blog removed from the internet, my right to free speech, and my right to be on the internet at all then bloggers throughout this country should be very concerned about that.
Sorry, I'd assumed this "thing" has known you way back when..more disturbing to learn how and when she made contact, and the lengths she has obviously gone to, to "dig up dirt".
Without wanting to sound like your mother, (I turned 45 a few days ago), I only hope this drama won't side-track you from your studies.
Please know you have more cheer-leaders who are wishing you well, than those who don't. x
This will not take focus away from my studies. Don't you worry.
I suspect that is exactly what she is wanting.
Keeping Stock recently gave me a kind warning. He said "be careful Jac - it is when things are going good that the devil tries to stick his oar in"
That warning has resonated in my ears over the past 2 weeks.
Nothing will take focus off my studies. That is THE most important thing in my life right now and nothing will make that suffer.
Thanks Suz.
PS - HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
At dinner the other night my age came up. I said something about being 41 and my lovely Coley said "4 months from being 42"...
That kids does not let me get away with anything!
Ha! I have my son well-trained, who very kindly took a decade off my age...Coley, listen and learn, pocket-money might go up :)
Relieved to hear you're not letting this crap affect your main focus...good old KS...they're very wise words.
Hmmm i am wondering this morning if this news item would be considered defamation or harassment by the HOS.
http://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=10803779
or a breach of family court confidentiality in turn making the Herald on Sunday in contempt of court...
I am sure that the people involved in that case know that the Herald on Sunday are talking about them. I would assume that most of their friends would also recognise the behaviours described of the two people involved in that divorce.
Simon Buckingham and my stalker advise that despite me never naming my stalker or allowing her friends to name her on my blog - and basically only responding to her harassment in an anonymous fashion - the fact that i have written about her behaviour and the she assumes what i have written was about her - then it is defamation - regardless of me never naming her.
If that was the case then how did the HOS get away with their "Guess who don't sue" column for so many years and continue to do so...
The mind boggles.
I remember you writing about this woman a while back, shes the one who wentto the police when your friend wouldn't leave his wife for her right? He was going to court to get rid of her or something. You hads warned him and he hadn't listened. Is that it? How did that work out or is this the answer, she has set her sights on you because she lost? What a psycho.
The HOS article is not likely to be defamatory because there is no defamatory statement even though you are probably right that there's enough there i the article for identification to be made.
You don't need to name someone to identify them for the purpose of defamation, enough descriptors for their circle to identify them is enough.
Defamation is a combo of identification, defamatory statement and publication. All 3 have to be there and they're not in the HOS article.
There is no harassment in the article as there have to be two specific acts of harassment in 12 months for legal harassmet. A 'specific act' is something that ojectively causes the victim to be scared, i.e. other people would also be scared. 'Scared' is broader than a threat to physical safety, it could be a threat to employment, like with sexual harassment, or fear to go to the mailox, like with the effect of mail harassment. Scared has a lateral meaning.
As for reporting on a family court matter, there are specific rules in the law about when media can report and how they report on family court cases. They have to take care to not take sides & be very even in what they say.
As for your concern, provided you have kept these rules you'll be fine.
btw you can't complain to the Law Society that a Lawyer is acting for someone you do't like.
I can't see aything to complain about here from what you have put up.
There is no obligation to put you on notice, notice is just a courtesy.
My complaint to the Law Society has nothing to do with Simon Buckingham acting for someone that i don't like.
There are 8 different matters that i have raised regarding Simon's conduct in this matter - under section 7 of the Lawyers and Conveyancers Act 2006.
There is a lot more correspondence regarding this matter than what i have blogged at this stage.
I am leaving it in the hands of the Law Society now.
How have you got him on misconduct? (It is an odd section to target.)
Like i said - a complaint has been made and i am leaving the issue of his conduct in this matter to the Law Society now.
I thought you said you viewed him as a victim of her?
All law society complaints are taken seriously and drag on for months, often totally injustly. You would think, given your romantic relationship you would know this and would be capable of maturity.
I think that you doth protest too much - to paraphrase the bard. ;-)
Why are such a bitch? I have been reading you for 3 years now and you are always the victim of some plot by some psycho. Ever heard the saying “if everyone has a problem with Jacqui, then the problem must be Jacqui?“
Your blog is nothing but hate filled poison. No wonder so many people have sued you over the years and have threatened to sue you.
I am watching this round with a glee, cant wait to hear how a judge responds to your bullshit. I bet the ds court is packed.
Hello stalker.
Hope you had a nice weekend.
I started this blog less than 3 years ago. The only people that read it in the beginning were people that knew me personally.
I am sorry that you have spent the last 3 years of your life filled with hate and hoping that something bad happens to someone that doesn't care about you. You sound very similar to my current psycho stalker.
That is really sad.
Re "so many people that have sued me"
Who might you be referring to ...the same people who are joining all the actions that Simon Buckingham has referred to possibly...
You will be able to watch this with glee because i am going to be more than happy to write about everything. I am also looking forward to it.
In the meantime i will congratulate you on being my most loyal fan and concentrating for 3 whole years on someone that you think is a bitch.
Sit back with your sad self and enjoy...or...do something that a sane person would do and click me away.
:)
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