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Court spat: the prostitute and the medic

A prostitute and a medical professional are embroiled in a court spat which includes him being invoiced for $22,000 worth of sex.

The prostitute says her dreams of becoming her lover's Pretty Woman were dashed after discovering he had a family. But the medical professional says he never slept with the woman - and says she is a stalker who poses "serious threat issues" to his family.

A court battle looms at the Auckland District Court after the man hired esteemed medical lawyer Harry Waalkens, QC.

 It follows attempts by the prostitute to seek a court order enforcing her bill for sex.

She had filed papers with the Disputes Tribunal seeking a maximum award to cover her claimed losses.

Waalkens sought and won identity suppression for his client. He also filed claims the prostitute was harassing his client and sought a restraining order.

The woman told the Herald on Sunday she had seen the medical professional for years. "It started out that he sought my services and saw me and paid me for two years."

But she said the relationship turned romantic and she stopped charging for sex.

"If I had known he had a woman in his life it would never have happened," she said. "I've not been paid for services before. I was losing income in the time I was spending with him."

The woman said the medical professional had told her a different story about his identity than what she later discovered. "I found out who he was and where he lived."

Then, confronting him about the lost income, she said he gave her $500 worth of lingerie vouchers. "He picked the wrong person to do this to. I rang him and said 'when are you going to talk to me'?"

She said his response was to start calling for help, shouting: "It's a stalker."

She said she became determined to recover lost earnings.

The woman filed the claim with the Disputes Tribunal from where it was transferred to the district court.

She said: "I could have been nasty ... I could have rung his partner on the first day. I could have cost him his profession and his relationship.

"I refrained filing the claim until after Christmas Day so it wouldn't cloud his Christmas." The woman said she had proof of the relationship in diary entries and text messages.

The medical professional said any claims he had sex with the woman were "crazy".

"There are some serious risk issues in terms of my safety. I need to be careful about that. I'm trying to protect my family and myself from this person."

Waalkens said his client denied all allegations made by "this mad woman".

"These proceedings she has embarked on is part of - but not all of - a very serious harassment process she has embarked on."

Waalkens said harassment proceedings were active before the court. The next court date was in late April.

What a liar that "medical professional" is.  This woman has text messages, diary entries, he gave her lingerie vouchers - and now after lying for years he is calling HER the mad woman?!?! You know a guy is lying when his only defense is to call a woman crazy and a stalker. That is the only thing he has to fall back on because there is no other explanation for her claims - other than that they are true.

What motivates someone to make up an entirely false claim?

There is a real power imbalance involved here. There is a real difference between a woman who is so vulnerable and broke that she resorts to selling sex, and a medical professional who can afford the best lawyer. Henry Waalkens is apparently the go to guy for all naughty doctors. Perhaps this man should contemplate the fact that it would be cheaper to pay this woman what she deserves rather than lining the pocket of the legal profession. In the long run it will have been cheaper just to be honest and fair with his prostitute.

T and i are debating this right now.

He seems to think that she might have a case. He is saying take away the particular career this woman is involved in and replace it with a builder - and she has a case. T says that if what this woman alleges is true - his behaviour has been deceptive, fraudulent and that there has clearly been an economic loss. The issue is whether or not a contract has been breached. He has deliberately engaged in deceptive behaviour for financial advantage - ie years of free sex with a prostitute.

My opinion is - that if you are a mechanic and you work on a friend's car for free - you can't then go back and charge them retrospectively just because that friend has lied to you and the friendship has ended.

I am also of the opinion that if you are a hooker and you are silly enough to believe in the whole Pretty Woman fantasy - and that a relationship has anywhere to go once you have exchanged sex for money the first time you meet someone then you pretty much should change careers. If you are a prostitute and looking for love at work then you are looking for love in all the wrong places.

Pretty Woman was a movie. It was not real.

This guy is a sleazy creep for what he has done, but i seriously doubt that the prostitute will win this.

Good on her for trying though!

She will probably save other prostitutes lots of time and money because i doubt she is the only one he has done this to, and maybe he will learn a lesson. There are tons of men out there that do this kind of thing. I once knew a "medical professional" who is in a relationship, a p addict, and has "relationships" with hookers. His wife has no idea that as soon as she is asleep - he sneaks out of bed for the night and returns before she wakes up in the morning - none the wiser that he has even gone out. He keeps a Countdown bag with chocolate biscuits in it in his car. If the wife wakes up and notices him gone - he races home telling her that he had a midnight chocolate craving and popped to the supermarket!

I am now sitting here wondering if it is the same guy.

Contrary to what men who use prostitutes would like to believe - prostitutes are not having sex with hairy backed foul men because they enjoy it.

They are doing it because they need the money.