That is awesome. I was a terrible woodpecker during my first marriage. I probably would have been a woodpecker during my second marriage too - if i had been able to get a word in.
The space shuttle Discovery was once grounded-not by technical difficulties or lack of funding, but by woodpeckers! The birds found the insulating foam on the shuttle's external fuel tank irresistible. The foam is critical to the shuttle's performance. Without it, ice forms on the tank when it's filled with super-cold fuel; ice that can break free during lift-off and damage it.
There's a lesson here. Often, our marriages are damaged not by big things such as infidelity, abuse or abandonment, but little things such as criticism, lack of respect, and taking each other for granted. Pecking away at your relationship keeps it from reaching the heights of happiness God has planned for you. Someone wisely observed, 'Before you criticise your spouse's taste, remember, they chose you.'
You say, 'But I'm just stating the facts.' Oswald Chambers said, 'God never gives us discernment in order that we may criticise one another, but that we may intercede [pray] for one another.' Nagging doesn't work; it only tears down your spouse's self-worth and security. People change only when they feel validated and understood. The Bible says, 'Love is patient and kind.' Instead of 'pecking', recall the qualities that attracted you to your spouse, build on them, and bring out the best in them. If you don't, who will?
Paul writes, '...Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honourable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise' (Philippians 4:8 NLT). If you plan to stay married and be happy, these are time-tested principles.
Never again. Lesson learned.
I made a mistake today. I took a friend's advice and organised to get a haircut at a hair salon that i had never been to before. This friend of mine recommended this particular place, so i phoned them yesterday and made an appointment. I had not had a haircut in a whole year. I have been so intent on growing my hair long that the fact that half my head was one big split end did not matter to me. It was a long split end, after all.
I finally decided - enough- split end needs the chop. So off i went this morning. Less then an hour later, i wandered out of that salon $93.00 poorer and looking EXACTLY the same as i had when i walked in the door. Actually, that is a lie. I had taken the time to straighten my hair before i embarked on my mission, and the hairdresser left me curly.
Never, ever, EVER again getting my hair done without asking how much they charge first. I could have gotten my ends trimmed at a nice salon in Howick for $40.00.
They saw me coming. I got smoked. That's ok though - i got suckered into booking another smoking in 8 weeks time. Someone is going to get an extra nice long lunch break that day!
What else happened today? Nothing really.
Oh! I heard that The Dog Whisperer is coming to New Zealand - which is a coincidence really because i popped home for a little while to transport teenagers around Howick this afternoon and while i was doing that Nixon decided to escape again. My weeding efforts have exposed a gap in the fence that took him all of 2 minutes to find.
Luckily, i tracked him down out on the busiest road he could possibly find near our home. He was not well pleased to be caught. He wouldn't even look at me in the car, while i told him what a naughty boy he is.
I am going to try to take him to meet the Dog Whisperer. If there is any dog that can break the Dog Whisperer - it will be Nixon.
I just got brought a chocolate chip muffin in bed. Yum. I better save my keyboard from crumbs.
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