'Isaac...loved Esau, but Rebekah loved Jacob.' Genesis 25:28 NIV
I am kinda, really laughing, kinda really hard right now.
When our children drop out of school, run away, get pregnant, abandon church, take drugs, consume alcohol, engage in illicit sex and marry disastrously, in many cases it's saying, 'I'll show you!'
Ummmm, so THAT'S what i was doing when i left school, came to New Zealand, ( how much further away from Spokane, Washington could i get?) NEVER stepped foot in a Church, and hated God, got pregnant at 19, had two divorces... I was punishing my parents!
There ya go Dad and Monica - THAT showed you!
Oh my gosh - that is horrible. I am laughing because i did every single one of those things on that list, but it's horrible because my Dad and Monica never deserved me. They did their best, and i always knew they loved me.
Billy came home yesterday, after having gone through his first "evaluation" - i think he called it - at Media Design School. Apparently he got told that he is a model student, and the tutors wish they had a whole course full of students like him. He is acing everything.
I am so, so, so proud of him.
His gym addiction at the moment is a bit concerning. He joined the gym up the road, when he returned from the States last year. That was cool...he was not blessed with well built / large parents. In fact he complains that can't put on weight, but it is not his fault that his parents are "skinny hobbits..."
I raised an eyebrow at him earlier this year when a package arrived in the mail, and it was a big bucket of protein shake powder, and a bottle of caffeine pills. I guess the powdered drink mix is for putting on weight, and the pills are for energy? That is what i got told when i asked about it. REALLY not happy about the pills, but i don't think he ended up taking them anyway. I think they just came with the milkshake powder.
He has been drinking that stuff religiously every day, when he gets home from Uni / the gym - or wherever has has been. Every day when he gets home i get to hear about his work out, and how many kgs he can now lift etc etc...I must admit - he is looking all strong, and muscley, with abs that i haven't seen on a guy, in real life since ummmm i was his age.
This morning's conversation has me more worried. He was heading out the door, and mentioned what time he would be home this afternoon. He is going to be late, because he is stopping at the supermarket to buy rice and tuna to eat because that will help with his muscles. He says, that will help him put on an extra 20 kilos.
Double U Tee Eff!?!?! If he puts on 20 kilos he is going to look like a freak.
I am not sure that i am all that happy with this obsession that he has acquired regarding his body. I have always stated that there is something mentally wrong, with people that are obsessed with their body image. Body builders - for example - are not right in the head. There is something wrong with you, if you spend your whole life counting calories, and fat content, and eating boiled eggs and chicken / tuna, then painting yourself orange while thinking that looks good, when all you have done is turned yourself into an orange thing that resembles an alien.
I am worried about Billy. He is "showing me" for getting my small person genes. If i catch him flexing his muscles, posing, or buying fake tan - there is going to be trouble in this house.
If i catch him in a thong - i will disown him.
Parental rejection drives children to two extremes: namely, rebellion and compliance. Children rebel out of their need for acceptance. Esau understood the principle of parentally-approved marriage. But he expressed his resentment against a scheming mother who failed to love him and helped cheat him out of his inheritance, and against an unloving father, by rebelling against the laws of God and family, and marrying unapproved women (Genesis 26:34). Perhaps Esau felt some perverse satisfaction when his mother was '...disgusted with living because of [Esau's] Hittite women...' (Genesis 27:46 NIV). When our children drop out of school, run away, get pregnant, abandon church, take drugs, consume alcohol, engage in illicit sex and marry disastrously, in many cases it's saying, 'I'll show you!'
Turning to compliance, Esau's rebellion didn't win Mum's love, so he tried the opposite technique with Dad, hoping that doing it Dad's way might make him loved. Recognising Dad's approval of Jacob's marital choice, 'Esau...realised how displeasing the Canaanite women were to his father Isaac...and married Mahalath', Abraham's granddaughter, but, alas, also Ishmael's daughter (Genesis 28:8-9 NIV). A child at any age will do anything, however irrational or self-destructive, to earn and keep the love of parents! Did it work? No! Nothing he did could make his dad love him. The real problem was a self-centred parent who loved when it benefitted him!
Certainly, Jacob and Esau were adults, responsible for their own choices. But parents are like potters, with the power to mould their child's character, conduct, convictions and course of life. Parents, nothing matters more to your children in life than your unconditional love for them!
I am kinda, really laughing, kinda really hard right now.
When our children drop out of school, run away, get pregnant, abandon church, take drugs, consume alcohol, engage in illicit sex and marry disastrously, in many cases it's saying, 'I'll show you!'
Ummmm, so THAT'S what i was doing when i left school, came to New Zealand, ( how much further away from Spokane, Washington could i get?) NEVER stepped foot in a Church, and hated God, got pregnant at 19, had two divorces... I was punishing my parents!
There ya go Dad and Monica - THAT showed you!
Oh my gosh - that is horrible. I am laughing because i did every single one of those things on that list, but it's horrible because my Dad and Monica never deserved me. They did their best, and i always knew they loved me.
Billy came home yesterday, after having gone through his first "evaluation" - i think he called it - at Media Design School. Apparently he got told that he is a model student, and the tutors wish they had a whole course full of students like him. He is acing everything.
I am so, so, so proud of him.
His gym addiction at the moment is a bit concerning. He joined the gym up the road, when he returned from the States last year. That was cool...he was not blessed with well built / large parents. In fact he complains that can't put on weight, but it is not his fault that his parents are "skinny hobbits..."
I raised an eyebrow at him earlier this year when a package arrived in the mail, and it was a big bucket of protein shake powder, and a bottle of caffeine pills. I guess the powdered drink mix is for putting on weight, and the pills are for energy? That is what i got told when i asked about it. REALLY not happy about the pills, but i don't think he ended up taking them anyway. I think they just came with the milkshake powder.
He has been drinking that stuff religiously every day, when he gets home from Uni / the gym - or wherever has has been. Every day when he gets home i get to hear about his work out, and how many kgs he can now lift etc etc...I must admit - he is looking all strong, and muscley, with abs that i haven't seen on a guy, in real life since ummmm i was his age.
This morning's conversation has me more worried. He was heading out the door, and mentioned what time he would be home this afternoon. He is going to be late, because he is stopping at the supermarket to buy rice and tuna to eat because that will help with his muscles. He says, that will help him put on an extra 20 kilos.
Double U Tee Eff!?!?! If he puts on 20 kilos he is going to look like a freak.
I am not sure that i am all that happy with this obsession that he has acquired regarding his body. I have always stated that there is something mentally wrong, with people that are obsessed with their body image. Body builders - for example - are not right in the head. There is something wrong with you, if you spend your whole life counting calories, and fat content, and eating boiled eggs and chicken / tuna, then painting yourself orange while thinking that looks good, when all you have done is turned yourself into an orange thing that resembles an alien.
I am worried about Billy. He is "showing me" for getting my small person genes. If i catch him flexing his muscles, posing, or buying fake tan - there is going to be trouble in this house.
If i catch him in a thong - i will disown him.
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umm. In my defence, I am 5'7" and weigh 61 kilo's... That is in the lower 30% for people that are 5'7" and the average is a little over 80 kilo's. An adult is supposed to have over 2500 calories a day at the with very little physical activity, and I don't think I get that much, at least not consistently. Obviously rice and Tuna isn't going to magically make me gain 20 kilo's but over a period of time and a lot of working out it will help since that is high in carbs and protein. I'm not going to become a pro bodybuilder or anything but I like working out, and like being stronger than most other guys my age, and I hate the assumption that the 5'7" guy is really weak. I am working hard to change how people judge me and it makes me feel better about myself. I mean come on, you can still see small bumps where my shoulders are (bone). As for the pills they are a NATURAL Pre-workout energizer basically a caffine pill which helps after going to the gym after a tiring day at Uni.
Just saying.
Hahaha i LOVE you...and i would even if you were a thong wearing bodybuilder.
But don't become one ok xxx
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