Try harder. Do better. Be perfect.
These messages are tricks that people have played on us. No matter how hard we try, we think we have to do better. Perfection always elides us and keeps us unhappy with the good we have done.
Messages of perfectionism are tricks because we can never achieve their goal. We cannot feel good about ourselves or what we have done while these messages are driving us. We will never be good enough until we change the messages and tell ourselves we are good enough now.
We can start approving of and accepting ourselves. Who we are is good enough. Our best yesterday was good enough; our best today is plenty good too.
We can be who we are, and do it the way we do it - today. That is the essence of avoiding perfection.
God, help me let go of messages that drive me into the crazies. I will give myself permission to be who i am and let that be good enough.
I don't worry about perfectionism at all now. The only thing that i worry about is doing my best every day, and being proud of who i am.
I had a busy day today. I cleaned all morning, I had an appointment at 1pm, that dragged on FOREVER. Then, i picked Jorgia up from school...we did the food shopping etc etc...then the girls went off with Nick for the night because they had a career evening at the school to go to.
I really wish i could have taken them instead. Next year i will!