When we own our power to take care of ourselves - set a boundary, say no, change an old pattern - We may get flack from some people. That's ok. We don't have to let their reactions control us, stop us, or influence our decision to take care of ourselves.
We don't have to control their reactions to our process of self-care. That is not our responsibility. We don't have to expect them not to react to either.
People will react when we do things differently, or take assertive action to nurture ourselves, particularly if our decision, in some way affects them. Let them have their feelings. Let them have their reactions. But continue your course anyway.
If people are used to us behaving in a certain way, they'll attempt to convince us to stay that way to avoid changing the system. If people are used to us saying yes all the time, they may start mumbling and murmuring when we say no. If people are used to us taking care of their responsibilities, feelings, and problems, they may give us some flack when we stop. That's normal. We can learn to live with a little flack in the name of healthy self care. Not abuse, mind you. Flack.
We don't have to let flack pull us back into old ways if we have decided we want and need to change. We don't have to react or give it much attention. It does not deserve it. It will die down.
Phew...cause i had no intention of giving a toss about what anyone on this earth thinks of the changes that i have made to my life, the way i live my life, my beliefs, or my opinions...ever again.
I won't even have flack in my life ever again...let alone abuse.
Nixon and i had a long, hard day today. We got poured on during our walk. I had not eaten anything all day when we went. I won't do that again. Shock horror - my body must be actually used to having nutrients in it's system now. I felt like fainting half way through our run. Won't be doing that again.
Sleep time for us. x
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