When we look to anyone other than God to meet all our needs, we're setting ourselves up to be disappointed. Relationships work best when you establish boundaries and a budget up front. Ask, 'Where does this person belong in my life? How much am I prepared to invest in them?'
Life's too short to be spent straightening out misunderstandings, hurt feelings and damaged egos. If you're wise you'll avoid any relationship that drains you and leaves you asking, 'How did I get into this?' When keeping somebody happy means short-changing the purposes of God in your life and losing your joy, you've overdrawn the budget.
Good stewardship demands that you invest your life where there's the greatest return. When people who are 'too needy' demand more than you have the ability or the right to give, you've got to do one of two things. First, renegotiate. Bankrupting yourself to make them feel good might sound noble, but it's not. Bankrupt people end up with everything from nervous breakdowns to extramarital affairs because they're overspent. At this point, prayer, a good counsellor, and tough love may be what's needed.
Second, sometimes you have to walk away! Isaiah writes, '...I have set my face like a flint, and I know that I will not be ashamed' (Isaiah 50:7 NKJV). Make up your mind to let no one stand in the way of doing what God has called you to do. Your first calling is to please the Lord, not others.
For the rest of my life, i will always ask myself "Is this person worth the potential hurt that i will feel if this friendship or relationship does not work out?" I just can't go through what i have been through over the past two years again, with relation to the hurt and despair that i felt over the end of my marriage to Danny.
So far...the answer has been no. Maybe i am being over the top with that attitude...but i don't really care. I have faith that God will let me know when i have good people in my life that are worth keeping around.
I would rather be alone, than with people that are not worthy of the time that they are taking up in my life. I have better things to focus on these days...even if it does mean that sometimes i feel lonely.
Good morning! Auckland traffic after being awake nearly the whole night...which was no surprise! grrrrr
I have a busy day today too. Visit to the probation office, Nixon's run, house to look at, Jorgia to pick up, more rush hour traffic.....nice...i love it. Yay for a busy day, instead of a sludgy one!