How easy is it to fall into the trap of doubting ourselves and others.
When someone tells us about a problem, what is our reaction? Do we believe we need to solve it? Do we believe that person's future rests on our advice?
When someone is struggling through a feeling, what is our reaction? That the person will never survive that experience? That it is not ok for someone to feel?
When a person is assuming responsibility for his or her life, what is our response? That the person can't do that? We must do it ourselves to save him or her from failing?
What is our reaction when we encounter a problem, a feeling, or the prospect of assuming responsibility for ourselves?
Do we believe in ourselves, and others? Do we give a power to people and their abilities? Or do we give the power to the problem, the feeling, or the irresponsibility?
We can learn to check ourselves out. We can learn to think before we respond. "I'm sorry you are having that problem. I know you can figure out a solution. Sounds like you have got some feelings going on. I know you will work through them."
Each of us is responsible for ourselves. That does not mean we don't care. It means we learn to love and support people - including ourselves - in ways that work. It means that we connect with friends who love and support us in ways that work.
To believe in people- in their ability to think, feel, solve problems, and take care of themselves - is a great gift we can give and receive.
Today, I will strive to give and receive support that is pure and empowering. I will work at believing in myself and others - and our mutual abilities to deal with feelings, solve problems, and take responsibility for ourselves.
Goodnight you lot x