Considering commitment

While many of us fear commitment, it's good to weigh the cost of any commitment we are considering. We need to feel it is appropriate for us.

Many of us have a history of leaping headfirst into commitments without weighing the possible consequences. When we get in, we find that we do not really want to commit, and feel trapped.

Some of us are afraid of losing out on a particular opportunity if we don't commit. We still need to weigh the commitment. We still need to decide whether that commitment seems right for us. If it isn't we need to be direct and honest with others and ourselves.

Be patient. Do some soul searching. Wait for a clear answer. We need to make our commitments, not in urgency or panic but in quiet confidence, that what we are committing to is right for us. if something within says no, find the courage to trust that voice.

This is not our last chance. It is not the only opportunity that we will ever have. We don't have to commit to what isn't right for us, even if we try to tell ourselves it should be right for us and we should commit.

Often, we can trust our intuitive sense more than we can trust our intellect about commitments.

In the excitement of making a commitment and beginning, we may overlook the realities of the middle. That is what we need to consider.

We don't have to commit out of urgency, impulsivity, or fear. We are entitled to ask, will this be good for me? We are entitled to ask if this commitment feels right.

Today God, guide me in making my commitments. Help me say yes to what is in my highest good, and no to what isn't. I will give serious consideration before i commit myself to any activity or person. I will consider if the commitment is really what i want.

...and shoot me if i ever have to type the word "commitment" again! hehe

I used to have a big problem in this area. I don't think that i do anymore. I'm not keen on having or doing anything in my life, that is not the best for my children and I. I think, i have learned enough lessons the hard way. I have taken the hard road and learned hard lessons my whole life from ignoring what i knew was right, and heading off in a total different direction.

I am lucky that i don't have a permanent brick imprint on my forehead.

This is one lesson, that i have learned the hard way...but learned it all the same.

I had a big nap after dropping the girls at school today. I then drove back out to East Tamaki and dropped the slats from the futon off to Nick...Nixon and i then went for our big run...came back home, hung out more laundry, had a nice long shower, tidied the rest of my little place up, ate some dinner while we watched the news...and now i am in bed again. Cosy as...
Goodnight x